Top Three Reasons Why We Fall in Love

Hani Henry, who is chair and associate professor of Psychology in the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology of the AUC, believes that Robert Sternberg's psychological theory explains why people fall in love, and they are in fact the most common reasons, which are intimacy, passion, and commitment.

Intimacy

It is possible to fall in love for intimate reasons, but it does not require commitment or passion. Henry explained that intimacy isn't just about developing a close bond with someone. Sometimes it is self-serving. Everyone wants to be loved and cared for. Women need to feel their femininity while men desire their masculinity.

Intimacy is captured perfectly in Adele's Hello song. Adele contacts her ex boyfriend and reveals her feelings of heartbreak about the relationship in the song's chorus. She explains that many years have passed and she hasn't done much healing. "Her lyrics speak for many people who are looking to make an emotional connection, whether it's with someone they know or in a relationship that lasts a few months," he explained.

Passion

The normal thing to do is fall in love due to strong feelings or desire. Passionate love is developed as a result of feelings that lead to sexual attraction, physical interest and romance. Henry explained, "When you meet someone you like you become captivated by that person." "The attraction is not just physical. There is also a fascination for the hair, eyes, body."

Infatuation develops when there is no intimacy or commitment. "People become captivated and develop lust. Some people become obsessed with a person and view them as an object. He said, "You can be in love with someone for years but not feel that there is any commonality between you two."

Commitment

Complete love requires commitment. He said that people who are looking for commitment seek stability and a healthy relationship. "People who seek only commitment can be unable to find basic friendship and sexual attraction.

Henry said that in modern times young adults are more interested than ever in objects and relationships. He explained that objectification is a result of consumerism. "The more consumeristic a culture becomes, then the more people lose interest in commitments. Some youth are more interested than others in pleasing people they don’t care for. So everything needs to be consumed, even relationships with people."

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Sternberg's theory of love is universal. However, every person has their own reasons to fall in love. "Your reasons for falling in love don't necessarily have to be scientifically explained. Henry explained that certain personal needs may include fear of being alone, social pressure, satisfaction, or religious beliefs.

No matter what psychology says about love, our choice of type of love defines who we are. Each person has their own understanding of what makes them happy and fulfills their human needs. "Some people are caught with a need that meets each dimension of the triangle and they can't give up on two because of the different needs they get. Love can be complex.