Top Three Reasons to Fall in Love

Hani Henry, associate psychologist and chair of the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology, AUC, said that Robert Sternberg's psychological theories cover the most common reasons people fall in Love, namely intimacy, passion, and dedication.

Intimacy

It is possible to fall in love for intimate reasons, but it does not require commitment or passion. Henry said that intimacy is not only about building a close relationship with someone; it can also be used for self-enhancement. It can be self-serving. Everyone wants to be loved and cared for. Women want to feel feminine, while men want to feel masculine.

A perfect example of intimacy captured is Adele's Hi. In the song's chorus, Adele contacts her ex-boyfriend and pours out her heartbreak from the relationship.  gitari  explained that many years have passed, and she hasn’t done much healing. "Her lyrics are magical and speak for a lot of people who want to have an emotional connection with anyone or a short-term relationship," he said.

Passion

Normal to fall in love out of desire or strong feelings is normal. Passionate love is a result of sexual attraction, romantic interest, and romance. Henry stated, "When someone you like is attracted to you by something that draws them to that person." Henry explained that physical attraction can be described as a fascination with hair, eyes, and the body.

Infatuation develops when there is no intimacy or commitment. "People are drawn and quickly develop lust. Some people become obsessed with a person and view them as an object. He said, "You can be in love with someone for years but not feel that there is any commonality between you two."

Commitment

Complete love is only possible through commitment. He said that people who are looking for commitment seek stability and a healthy relationship. People who only want commitment may not be attracted to others and lose basic friendship interests.

Henry says that young adults today are more interested in objects than in relationships. He explained that objectification is a result of consumerism. "The more consumerism a culture becomes the more people lose interest and commitments. Some youth are more interested than others in pleasing people they don’t care for. All things must be consumed, including relationships with people.

Love Outside the Triangular Theory

Although it's common that anyone can relate to Sternberg's love theory, we all have our personal reasons for falling in love. Your reason for falling madly in love does not necessarily have to be explained by science. Some personal needs can be the fear of being alone, social peer pressure, satisfaction or religious values," Henry said.

Despite what psychology has to say about love, the type of love we choose defines who we are. Each of us has our own ways of understanding what makes our lives happy and meets our human needs. "Some people are caught with a need that meets each dimension of the triangle and they can't give up on two because of the different needs they get. Love can be complex.