Top Three Reasons Why We Fall in Love

Hani Henry, who is chair and associate professor of Psychology in the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology of the AUC, believes that Robert Sternberg's psychological theory explains why people fall in love, and they are in fact the most common reasons, which are intimacy, passion, and commitment.

Intimacy

It is possible to fall in love for intimate reasons, but it does not require commitment or passion. Henry stated that intimacy is more than just a close connection with someone. It can also be used to enhance self-esteem. "Sometimes it can be self-serving. Everyone likes to feel cared for and loved. Women want to feel feminine, while men want to feel masculine.

Adele's song Hello is a perfect example of how intimacy is captured. Adele, in the chorus of the song, calls her ex-boyfriend to vent her grief about their relationship. She explains that many years have passed and she hasn't done much healing. He said that her lyrics were magical and could be used by anyone who wants to feel a connection with someone or have a long-term relationship.

Passion

Letting ourselves fall in love because of desire or strong feelings for a person is normal. Passionate love develops from feelings that lead to sexual attraction and romantic interest. Henry stated, "When someone you like is attracted to you by something that draws them to that person." "The attraction to someone is physical and there is a fascination about the hair and eyes as well as their bodies."

Infatuation is a feeling of love that develops without intimacy or commitment. People are attracted to one another and develop a sense of lust. Some people become obsessed with a person and view them as an object. He stated that it is possible to be together for years with someone and not feel a commonality.

Commitment

Commitment is complete love. He said that people who are looking for commitment seek stability and a healthy relationship. "If people only seek commitment, they may lack sexual attraction and basic friendship interests."

Henry says that young adults today are more interested in objects than in relationships. He said, "The objectification of culture comes from consumerism." "The more consumerism a culture becomes the more people lose interest and commitments. Some youth are more interested in impressing people they don't care about. All things must be consumed, including relationships with people.

Love Outside the Triangular Theory

Sternberg's theory of love is universal. However,  status on attitude  has their own reasons to fall in love. Your reason for falling madly in love does not necessarily have to be explained by science. Henry explained that certain personal needs may include fear of being alone, social pressure, satisfaction, or religious beliefs.

Psychology may have some things to say about love but the love we choose is what defines us. We all have our own unique ways of understanding what makes us happy, and what fulfills our human desires. "Some people feel compelled to satisfy every dimension of the triangle. They can't let go of one because they have so many needs. Love is complex.